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Yes, Part One. As in this post was so long I had to split it into parts. But, if you read this first part then the Moving Tips in the second part will make a whole lot more sense to you. Maybe. Maybe not.
(There’s a reason why I’m sharing this move with you. Believe me, it’s not just to whine and complain. Well ok, maybe just a bit. But mainly, I want to tell you how badly prepared I was and the ramifications of that unpreparedness. And maybe I can help save someone, just a bit, on their next move.)
This had to be the worst move of my life, partially because I didn’t have Marlon and definitely because I was unprepared. To be fair, I didn’t have a lot of time. Our house had a 30 day escrow with a 3 week extension. That’s 7 weeks to find a new house and pack everything up. Sounds reasonable but I didn’t start packing until we found the new house. If the new house was small, we’d have to rent a storage unit. We were lucky and found a large house, only by the time we did I was weeks behind schedule.
Keep in mind as you’re reading this, I’m 55 years old with a bad back. Rather than Sex in the City, think Widows in the Country, mkay?
Originally we were going to hire a couple of guys and a Uhaul truck. Man, if we’d done that we’d still be making trips back and forth between houses. “Lucky” for us the first pair of guys fell through. So we found another couple. And then they fell through. We had no choice but to hire professional movers. I called a few local companies around Placerville.
One estimator came out on Sunday morning at 10 a.m. I already liked this guy before I met him. He walked thru the maze of packed, nearly packed, and not-packed-yet boxes and gave us what seemed to be a fair bid. Higher than we wanted to spend, but we were in a jam.
The next day, Monday, I called their office at 8 a.m. to schedule the move. They only had Tuesday available that week. Since we were supposed to be totally OUT of the house by that Thursday, I had no choice but to take it.
I did my best Monday but it wasn’t near good enough. I was up past midnight and started in again at 5 a.m. By 7 a.m. I was near tears because I knew we weren’t ready. At 7:30 the owner of the moving company called to ask if they could come early.
EARLY?!? I am SO not ready. “Don’t worry,” he assured me. They were used to this and they’d come and pack up what needed to be packed and move it all.
My tears of frustration and anxiety turned into tears of joy. Especially when I saw not two, not four, but SIX guys show up. Plus the owner!
Mom grabbed Sadie and sat in our car so they were out of the way. I basically stood back and watched in awe. It was drizzling a light rain – could my luck get any worse? – but nothing deterred these guys. It took them nearly four hours to load everything, plus they had to go get an extra truck, and then another for a “dump” run.
Yeah. Cha-ching. I saw dollar signs flashing before my eyes, but what else could we do? This was our only option and I thought these guys were wonderful.
Oh, there was a little confusion about the stuff in my shop. “This is junk, right?” No, that goes. “It goes to the dump.” No, it goes to the house. Apparently they haven’t moved too many DIYers.
You know, I knew this was going to be a tough move for a number of reasons:
- We have a lot, I mean a lot, of stuff. The old house was 1900 sq. feet plus a garage plus a workshop. Also it’s a two story house, which makes moving large items tricky.
- The new house is also two stories. What’s worse, it’s on a sloped lot. So there are 4 steps down to the walkway, two steps up to the front door. And that’s the upper level.
- To access the lower level you either take the stairs, with a 30” clearance, or go around the side of the house on some very uneven pavers.
These are the stairs coming down to the front walkway.
This is the pathway around the side, going to the downstairs. All sorts of uneven pavers and bricks. But, the opening with the gate off is 36 inches wide.
The stairwell, on the other hand, only had a 30 inch clearance between the two handrails.
Seemed like a no-brainer to me. But then, I wasn’t the one hauling a big ol’ refrigerator either.
First, down the four stairs. Oh, that’s Dakota, the owner’s son. Dakota is a rock star. (You can tell him I said that too.)
Even with the handles off, this fridge wasn’t going down the stairs, so Dakota took the truck ramp and laid it over the uneven pavers. Smart guy.
The refrigerator was going in the downstairs kitchen because the house already came with a fridge in the upstairs. It seemed rather pointless to move that one downstairs and this one upstairs. Plus, more time equals more money and we were already over budget at this point.
So far so good. I’d moved so many times with my husband, who was 6’4” tall, very strong and very smart, that I’d totally taken for granted how hard and tricky it is to move these things.
Almost thru the gate . . .
Look out! Um, apparently a straight ramp across uneven pavers makes for an uneven drop at the end.
But Dakota finally managed it and they were off down the hill to the downstairs.
The sliding door or the small one? Let’s try the slider.
Um, no.
Let’s try this door.
Jusssst fit.
Wahoo! I have a refrigerator in my own little kitchen!
Now, by this point, we were all pretty tired. Even these young guys. They’d been at it for 6 hours.
I had told them if the box was labeled “Kitchen” to just stack it against this wall.
For quite a while I sat out by their truck, directing them to Upstairs, Downstairs or the Garage. Periodically I’d go inside to see how things were going, empty a wardrobe box or two, then back to the truck. Things seemed to be moving quite nicely.
Did I mention we were all exhausted?
Um, that one wall turned into two. Two walls, stacked full of kitchen stuff? That can’t be right. I packed all of the kitchen. Hmmm.
Well, looky there. It’s the paper shredder in with the kitchen stuff instead of downstairs in the office.
I wonder what the downstairs looks like after 6 guys have been unloading furniture and boxes for 4 hours?
I told them to stack all of my work boxes right here, so that’s okay. No, wait . . .
Why is my nightstand sitting in the middle of the sitting room and not in my bedroom?
Oh, who cares, I thought, after being up since 5 a.m. I can move a silly nightstand by myself.
They’d set up all of the major furniture, moved the fridge, washer & dryer downstairs, hooked up the washer, and set up our beds. Plus, they unloaded a ton – and I mean a TON – of boxes. Who cares if a silly nightstand is in the sitting room and a paper shredder is upstairs instead of down?
Who cares? I do, that’s who!
Yes, I did not one, but two, walk-throughs with Dakota to make sure everything was in its right place. Yes, they moved this thing there and that thing here for us. And, yes, I was bone-tired and really didn’t care I just wanted it to be OVER.
Guess what. It’s been over two weeks and it’s not over. I’m still sifting and sorting thru boxes, trying to find things. I’ve lost my temper so many times but you know the saying – when you point a finger at someone else there are three pointing back at you. Yep, I should’ve taken greater care because now I’m the one stuck with this mess.
Just the other day I finally unpacked this uber heavy box. Where was it, you ask?
Piled high atop another huge box, on top of a desk, so that I needed a step stool to even reach it. Forget about moving it because that thing was incredibly heavy.
Did I mention that I’m 55 years old and my mother is 85?
Do you think the movers just might have noticed this fact?
Apparently whoever stacked this heavy box didn’t notice. Because I had to take out the flour, and then the sugar, and then each and every other thing packed inside until I could manage to bring the box down to the floor. Grrr.
That’s just one example of why I should’ve cared when they were still here! Don’t even get me started on the garage.
Okay, just one pic.
Who stacks not one, not two, but THREE boxes on top of something clearly marked GLASS paintables, huh? Who does that?!? Oh, and notice that the box underneath is totally upside down.
Do you wanna know how frustrated, angry, and completely exasperated I’ve been? For two weeks!
Oh, I don’t blame the movers anymore. I did. Oh, I was really angry for a while. I mean A.N.G.R.Y. But as time passed I took full responsibility, for not being prepared, for not being fully packed, for not overseeing all 6 guys, for not checking each and every room to make sure that each and every box’s label was clearly visible.
Yep. That was me who did not do those things. And yes, it’s taking a lot, lot longer to get settled than I thought it would. But, hey, I learned a lot through all of this crapola.
I learned that moving isn’t just “moving”. It’s packing, packing, packing, then moving, then cleaning the old house, then unpacking, unpacking, organizing, and unpacking some more.
I also learned the hard way that there are things that could’ve and would’ve made everything go a lot easier on the movers and, therefore, me. Not to mention save time which would’ve saved money.
Next time I’ll share those tips with you. If you’re not planning on moving any time soon, that’s okay. At some point, you will. It’s just part of life. And trust me, these tips will save you hours, no days, of aggravation.
Colleen
prutsels says
Give your self a pat on the back Colleen !
That was an afwul lot to accomplish and you did it.
You’ve shown such resiliency and strength I’d be worried about your sanity if you didn’t get angry once and a while:)
The house looks like a haven for you and your mom hope you settle in soon.
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Unknown says
Colleen, I agree! Give yourself a BIG pat! If it’s any consolation I packed my 935 SF condo myself, then had movers move me into my 1300SF house EIGHT years ago and I still have boxes stacked floor to ceiling in what was to be my bunny’s room. August marks his 8-year adoption anniversary and he’s been sharing a bedroom with me all this time. I hate that I have stuff in there that I don’t remember and will be SO THRILLED when I get to the box with 200+ music CDs in it. If only my boyfriend had not backed out of his bet that I wouldn’t be unpacked in a year or he’d owe me $5000. I would have made SURE I had it all unpacked for THAT!
Maureen Hayes says
Oh honey we are SO living parallel lives! It’s actually scary at times to read your posts, only I am a few weeks ahead of you, so let me assure you of this much,you WILL eventually find everything and get it unpacked. I spent the first month without being able to use my microwave,not because I didn’t have it in the kitchen, but because the overs had taken the glass plate and the thing it sits on out and guess where they packed it? Come on, by now you probably know it was only logical to begin with the master bedroom stuff, right?! I mean that makes perfect sense doesn’t it? I am still climbing a stepladder to reaching to the last boxes that keep me from being able to sit at or use my table. The sad thing is they know we are sick,can’t lift, etc. . . They don’t care. They do what they do and they get out.
I am glad that you are finding the new home a sanctuary and know that in time all the moving mess will be behind you and you can start to enjoy this new chapter with your Mom. I will keep you close in my prayers as you go through this, but you are incredibly strong, resilient and capable and you will get through this, of that I have no doubt.
Hugs,
Maureen
fancynancy says
Just moved June 1st and I turned 62 July 2nd. My body is still not together,LOL. I sure know what your going up against.All I have left to do is my craft and sewing rooms.We are both retired so it was hard, and having a empty nest, without those extra little hands now that all the kids are gone it was really hard.
pat in NY says
Just moved last August into a fairly small – my own place – 4 room apartment. The 4th room is really tiny but that became my office/craft room/sewing room/fabric storage spot. That room is about 9′ x 9’6″ with 1 small closet I intend to outfit with shelves; I need them. So much stuff I still cannot find. Hope to be completely organized before winter.
Having said all that, I understand your frustrations and your anger. I am happy you are at least in your new place. It takes time but you are strong and courageous, and you will accomplish all. All your losses are painful and I can only pray for a calmer life for you.
By the way, forgot to mention I moved a month before my 70th birthday, with only my brother-in-law and soon-to-be grandson moving all the furniture. And myself and girlfriend moving all the boxes, clothes, and all the stuff I didn’t get packed. Sorry this post is so long. Guess I had to verbalize my own frustrations! Tons of hugs for encouragement. Pat.
Kae says
Colleen,
Whatever you are doing right now….unless it is reading this comment….STOP IT!!!! Have a good cry, go do something that makes you LAUGH, and give yourself permission to organize yourself a little at a time.
Oh…did I mention I am a Licensed Counselor who moved 10 months ago and still getting settled?
I don’t usually tell people what to do but a fellow counselor gave me that advice. It worked!!! Prayer also helps!!!!!
Take care….literally,
Kathryn says
You never realize how much stuff you have until you go to move it.
Even with professional movers, mostly it is younger people that have the physical stamina to do the job but not always the thought process or training to know what goes where or stacking boxes or how high(especially if they are 6′ 6″…what is not high to them is a mountain if you barely 5’6″).
As aggravating as it is, just don’t feel the need to rush and have to do it all at once and just makes you feel like crying because it never seems like it will be done. Unpacking a little here and there adds up over the course of a week and encourages you to continue as it can give you a sense of accomplishment that you desperately need.
Hang in there:)
Laura Strack says
Hi Colleen, Well, at least you are all moved now. There’s no rush to get it all put away, is there? If I lived closer I would come help you, for sure. You can take your time and put things exactly where you want them. Aren’t you glad the movers got in and out so quickly? When fatigue sets in, we all kinda get goofy, no matter our age. The storm is over, everyone survived and now the clean up has begun. You will have a new home for all your stuff soon enough and then you can plan a celebration!! I can see a cute painted bunting hanging in your den, “Welcome Home”! Post those pictures, too
Janet says
Oh, Colleen!! What an ordeal. We had one month to be out of our condo 37 yrs, ago. Yes, age and ability make HUGE difference. Your mom is healthier than I am and 25 yrs. older. Anyway, hubs refused to rent short-term or to store so we had to find a vacant house. We did, but what a mess. Honestly, it’s still not saleable. One thing after another.
Best wishes. Now to part 2!
Janet